In today’s fast-paced and achievement-driven society, success often seems like the ultimate goal we must strive for at all costs. Ambition, determination, and hard work are values many of us admire, but we rarely stop to ask ourselves: what is the price we pay for success?
Fatigue, anxiety, sleep problems, and constantly thinking about work – these are all symptoms that many successful people experience today. Those who work late into the night, sacrifice their personal lives, and devote all their energy to their careers are often praised.
But at what point does dedication turn into self-destruction?
Ambition, determination, and hard work are values many of us admire
Have you already paid too high a price?
Take a moment to reflect – if any of these statements feel familiar, it might be time to reassess your approach:
You feel constantly exhausted, even after weekends or vacations.
Thoughts about work keep you up at night, or you wake up feeling stressed.
Loved ones have mentioned that you seem distant or distracted.
You no longer have time or energy for hobbies or activities that once brought you joy.
You’ve started noticing health issues – headaches, body tension, digestive problems.
If most of these apply to you, ask yourself: is the way I work sustainable?
The Illusion of Success
Our desire for success is deeply ingrained in our upbringing, societal norms, and even how our brain functions. The brain rewards us for achievements—every success, whether a promotion or recognition, triggers a dopamine release that creates a short-term sense of satisfaction. But this feeling fades quickly, leaving us chasing the next goal in hopes that this time, it will bring lasting fulfillment.
Many of us grew up in environments where recognition was tied to achievements—good grades, sports victories, discipline. Over time, this can create a deep belief that our worth as a person depends solely on what we can prove and accomplish.
Modern society further reinforces this internal pressure, especially social media, which presents an image of“truly successful” people as tireless workers with perfect careers and lifestyles. When we constantly see others sharing their achievements, it creates a subconscious fear of falling behind. In a rapidly evolving world, it seems that if we’re not continually moving forward, we’re actually being left behind—and that fear pushes us to keep going, even at the cost of our mental and physical well-being.
What is Success, Really?
The society and culture we live in shape our definition of success. We often measure it in terms of job titles, salaries, material possessions, or prestige. But do these things truly bring happiness?
Many highly successful people reach the top only to realize something is missing—inner peace, close relationships, or simply the ability to slow down and enjoy life. Success shouldn’t come at the cost of health and well-being. Maybe it’s time to redefine what success really means.
How to Find Balance?
Balancing success and mental well-being doesn’t mean giving up on ambition – it means ensuring we don’t burn out in the process.
Set clear boundaries.
Do you feel responsible for everything and everyone? If saying“no” to work-related tasks outside working hours feels impossible, it’s time to set boundaries. Establish clear work hours and stick to them. If saying“no” feels difficult, ask yourself, does doing everything truly make me more successful?
Listen to your body and mind.
If you constantly feel tired, unmotivated, or easily irritated, it may be a sign that burnout is creeping in. Don’t ignore these signals—permit yourself to rest.
Think of your body as a car: if you only fuel it with coffee and stress, how far will it take you?
Make time for yourself.
Hobbies, exercise, reading, or even a simple walk can be more valuable than working extra hours. The more you value your free time, the more productive you will be at work. Working outside of work hours isn’t an achievement—it’s a habit. Try this: set aside 30 minutes each day just for yourself.
Permit yourself to rest.
Talk openly about mental health.
If you feel overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to seek support. Many leaders and high-achieving professionals work with psychologists or coaches to manage stress and expectations.
Work is an important part of life—it gives us purpose and a sense of fulfillment. But it is only one part of life, not life itself. What if success wasn’t measured only by achievements but also by balance, satisfaction, and mental well-being?
Life is a marathon, not a sprint—long-term success requires a strong physical and mental foundation.
So, what is the price of your success? And are you ready to rethink it?
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Anastassia is a psychologist specializing in counselling psychology, workplace well-being, and group facilitation. She develops mental health strategies and tools for organizations, designs and delivers trainings, and helps teams create healthier, more supportive work environments.
Anastassia Murašina
